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Be truthful
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Week 12 of 12
neiltigh commits to:
Be a transparent conduit for truth. Share any truth that is sought by another, or anywhere that sharing is a loving act i.e. more or equally likely than not to support the life's overall progress. If this is hard to discern, 'err on the side of share'. Eradicate all indirectness and deceit from communication; to deceive is to consume.
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My Commitment Journal
 neiltigh
June 2, 2020, 10:00 AM
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| What a wonderful commitment this has been, recommend to anyone to try - really hold yourself to it. Life feels more full of ease and my sense of fun is with me more often. | |
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neiltigh
May 27, 2020, 8:02 AM
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In a wonderfully ironic twist, the reason I haven't left entries for the last few reporting periods is I haven't known how to address a deceit I've continued in parallel - namely reporting success against my other active stickk commitment which I am very much failing. This is not actually with the intent to deceive longterm, just while I work out what the way forward is. I will honour its spirit in full and my current preferred route is to donate £250 to a charity of my choice, rather than $25 to the anti-charity. However, I will take into proper consideration the severity of my reneging and bear in my the anti-charity is there to serve a purpose. I also never intended not to disclose this situation here, just consequently couldn't figure out how to address it. I recognise that the delay in doing so could be seen as withholding information, and it is an interesting of example of how withholding truth can spread out. As such, to honour the spirit of THIS commitment, I will make a £5 donation to a charity for every week this situation has been the case. All that said, I am very happy with my progress through this stickk. It has been a gradual awakening on how to keep myself honest with others and myself. I am a lot more truthful and feel happier, more effective and more at peace for it. I am acutely aware of when I'm presented with the opportunity to lie, particularly to save face, and I now choose a different more frank path. It is a relief and feels like I'm honouring my teammates and friends. Along the way it has also sparked interesting conversations. One that sticks in my mind brought up the only example I have of potentially constructive deceit: imagine that a curious child asks you if you have ever done something they are being asked not to, like take drugs or behave riskily. To simply answer yes could very well be received as encouragement to do so too. This truth would best be handled sensitively and it is possible to conceive of scenarios where withholding some of the truth until they are mature enough to receive it in context could be seen as a 'best for life' path. I wonder how I'd respond if presented with something similar, and if that would be different now I'm better trained in the skill and benefit of being honest? Exciting. |
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neiltigh
April 28, 2020, 7:52 PM
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| I see the potential to deceive as it approaches much more clearly than before. I had one case where I didn't stop myself in time this week, but I feel I've made huge progress and am more forthright than ever. I've noticed relationships where I am being depended on are more functional. | |
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neiltigh
April 21, 2020, 11:26 AM
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The deception reported on 14th a April led to not looking forward to a team meeting, good personal reinforcement of why to be truthful. It's been a good week, this lesson has refocused my mind. |
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