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Week 5 of 5
huguru commits to:
finalizing the pitch deck and preparing an MVP for launch
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 huguru
December 17, 2017, 1:53 PM
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in meetings with Nicole it seemed we were getting closer to coming to the same page regarding work together, and reaching a common understanding about both work start point and vision. This was changing the focus as we spoke from needing a pitch deck and MVP to just getting going with working with Nicole's book - getting it published, getting it formatted into a lesson plan, planning a web-site for both market testing and launch However, as we got closer to just getting going and taking action to starting, we got drawn into communication issues and boundaries as well as proceedures and agreements between us regarding how to communicate and clearing up as well as learning from any past misunderstandings. That process in itself proved altogether too much - in person to person chats, she got triggered and hurt and then the next day in a chat i got triggered and hurt. Inside that in itself is why we get triggered and what is causing that to happen, which has its roots in both how we relate to each other and how we relate to ourselves, our needs and our psychological personalities and behavioural habits. Accusations have arisen about narcissism and personality disorder as well as toxicity, asking too many questions and setting up. And these issues underpin and influence the nature of our communication, orientating it towards failure to form agreement and misunderstanding There is a repeated nature by which this occurs which leaves me to believe that we are both equally contributing to this problem and that we both can learn and grow from it ... IF we can drop our egos enough to observe triggers, understand them, and be vulnerable and honest with each other as well as mutually supportive. Given the hurt this is causing when ego defences are triggered, and time and focus this costs ... a serious question has arisen regarding continued work together. I am stepping back to work on my own ideas and learn from this whole experience before stepping forward into working with Nicole |
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huguru
December 11, 2017, 4:10 PM
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good chat with Nicole - realised that there is a start to our company and this needs to be focused. I am now beginning to drop the idea of the tech co - or at least make it less of a focus. What i really need is to be able to step into the role and set up that co, and that will take a ramp that both 3DC and a cleanse and change of lifestyle will give me So after a couple of meetings with Nicole it looks like we could get on the same page in many ways. This is good and it makes for progress |
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huguru
December 4, 2017, 9:30 AM
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Working now to resolve underlying communication problems It seems Nicole has a motivation issue with the project so I am going to work to resolve this and am planning how to do so At issue here is learning how to be a leader and work with others who want to be led as employees. I am learning how to work with their wishes so I can get the best from them. In turn I am learning how to live with my own needs and address them suitably ie partnership |
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huguru
November 27, 2017, 12:25 PM
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we are making progress - communication got bad end of last week between Nicole and I and miscommunications arose. We ended up having a fall out and then a make up When the dust settled, the issue at stake really centred on whether to progress with my ideas and if so, which ones. By the weekend we had devised a plan for this, to clarify what we want to work on, and why so we can agree a focus and move forward. In essence, this feels like progress - that we work together in WHAT we do, but we are also serving our motivations, our why in the process So this feels like due diligence and foundational work - aligning our motivations so what when we get a what, we actually do follow through |
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