courtneyb70
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Being a better girlfriend
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Week 6 of 6
courtneyb70 commits to:
1. Don't get mad about trivial things.
2. Respond in a non-defensive manner when boyfriend brings up concerns. 3. Weekly date night 4. Engage in activities he likes even if I don't. 5. Find something nice to do for him every day. 6. Tell him one thing I appreciate about him every day.
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My Commitment Journal
 courtneyb70
October 20, 2015, 3:49 AM
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| Week of 10/11-10/17: This week started out great. It was our anniversary on the 11th. We have not had any problems with our relationship since the first week that I started my commitment but I've noticed that I'm slipping in some of my daily goals. Maybe I should come up with a reinforcement for myself that will make me more conscious of this. | |
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courtneyb70
October 11, 2015, 3:37 AM
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| Week of 10/4-10/10- this week has gone great with my commitments and I can really see a positive change in the way my boyfriend interacts with me. Tomorrow is our 2 year anniversary. I was hoping things would be better by now and they are. I think it's because I've kept my commitments for the most part. We're about to watch a scary movie together. I don't like scary movies but part of my commitment is to take interest in things he likes which I'm doing. | |
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courtneyb70
October 7, 2015, 9:32 PM
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| Week of 9/27-10/3- kept all my commitments. I'm proud of myself, when my boyfriend and I are in social situations and he does something that bothers me, I've been distracting myself by talking to people. In other words I am redirecting myself. Things have been good with us and I find that when I don't get mad at him, it's not long before he wants to come over and pay attention to me so I get natural reinforcement from that. | |
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courtneyb70
September 29, 2015, 4:35 AM
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| Week of 9/20-9/26: This week started out unsuccessful. I got mad at my boyfriend on Sunday and didn't stick with my daily commitments on Monday. The rest of the week went really well. We didn't have any arguments, I did something nice for him every day, we had a date night by ourselves and I joined him and his friend to go see a movie I didn't really care to see but I ended up loving it. I think it's helping but I'm trying to identify a reinforcement for not getting mad at him in social situations because I often feel like he is flirting with another girl. We see her all the time and my behavior of getting angry is reinforced by him leaving her to come to attend to me, so it's maintained by two functions: escape from the aversive situation of watching him flirt with her, and attention. I need to figure something out that will be more reinforcing than getting angry when he does this. | |
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